C8. Marriage and Resurrection.
A mind or spirit is in affections, interests, tastes, desires and inclinations precisely the same after the death of its body as before. It goes to no far‑off place. Were it you whose body bad dropped as it were from your spirit, and you had left your husband behind, and you really loved him, and that love was returned by him with equal intensity, you would be as near him as you were with a body.
As a wife, suppose for the moment you have lost your body. How near him were you before you lost that body? How near in tastes, inclinations and sympathies? Did he really like all that you liked? Did he care to go wherever you went? Or did you care to go wherever he went? Did you really and mutually like to be in each other’s company for hours and hours, and, at such times, did the hours fly so rapidly away as to cause you wonderment?
If this was the case, then you can get very near your husband now. If he continues to bold you as you do him, in love and appreciation beyond all other women, then you can be still so near each other, and have also a sense of ever growing nearer and nearer to each other, that no other embodied or disembodied man or woman can come between you, and whoever it is, either husband or wife, that is left with a body, will feel by degrees the sense of loneliness or bereavement depart.
What attracted you to the man who became your husband, or the woman who became your wife? Was it the similarity or nearness of your tastes and inclinations? If so, it was a closeness and mingling of both your minds.
That same closeness and mingling of minds, and the accompanying sense of rest and companionship is a possibility where one mind has still an earthly body and the other has not.
Now, please entertain this idea, for it holds good with all who have really and mutually loved each other, be it husband, wife, parent, or child who are now separated by what?
By the loss on the part of one of an earthly body. Through the loss by one of an instrument by means of which expression and emotion could be made plain one to the other. Do not here proceed to rake and scrape up all manner of objections to the possibility of your realizing in time the nearness of the mind and the thought of the person you call here lost or dead, for if you do you will find objections without end, and they will all serve as bars to such much desired and much needed commingling of minds.
We who am left with bodies on earth regard the “loss” of our friends from an extremely one‑sided point of view.
The wife who has lost her body has lost her husband also. The loss may be even more bitter than his own. For she, though without a physical body, still knows that he lives and that she lives. He regards her as “dead” in the usual sense of that term. That makes her as dead to him. It is as if you on coming into some loved one’s presence whom you were wont to caress and fondle, should become suddenly invisible and deprived of the power of being heard by that person. Your touch makes on him or her no impression. You are as a “nothing” where an hour before your presence was welcomed, seen, heard, felt and enjoyed. That is something very like the condition and experience of those who, having lost their bodies, are lost to their friends having bodies.
The tears that are shed by the living of earth for their loss are very often responded to by the living unseen close to them, who have the additional sorrow to bear of finding all their efforts to console and comfort those nearest and dearest to them of no avail. They cannot say, as they desire to, in an audible voice, “I am here. I live. I am yours, all yours, and it is my only wish to help, cheer and comfort you.”
But how much greater than the grief of those called the “living” may be that of those, who losing their bodies, but not their attraction, affection and nearness for another are obliged through the laws of attraction to remain near those they love, and as the years roll on see themselves gradually forgotten, or in remembrance faded out, and sooner or later have their places filled by others.
The time will surely come when those who remain with bodies here will in mind and many material ways act with those who have “passed on” as if they were with them in the flesh. When such are treated as though they were “alive” the ground will be broken for making them alive in every sense.
The one on the “other side,” husband or wife, son or daughter, being the same as ever in love, desire and inclination, deplores deeply the loss of that instrument, the body wherewith it was before accustomed to express its affections and emotions. It sorrows at the loss of its own body since it sees how that body was the means for a tangible communication with those it so much loves.
If, then, those here who have “lost” near and dear friends (those near and dear having “lost” them also), could instead of thinking of them as dead and “lost,” try and reverse the action of their minds and think of them as living though unseen, they would remove one barrier between them and those for whom they grieve.
If, secondly, they would entertain the idea that those they have erroneously called “dead” are not only living but want very eagerly to come back to their old homes, their chambers, their accustomed seats at table, to all the old association, companionship and endearment, they would remove another barrier.
But you may ask: “How can I believe that my lost ones live and want to come to me?”
We do not expect of you implicit belief. But you can try and give these ideas a place and a hearing in your mind. If they are truths, they will in time prove themselves.
You may say with regard to this assertion and others that we have put forth: “But yours are only theories; how can you prove them?”
We cannot prove them through any material means. But if anything in this order of thought appeals to you as containing a truth, it is for you to prove it yourself. You have also a spiritual machinery to work with, to experiment with, to test with. No one can work that part of your being save yourself. You would be none the better off, you would be none the more believing were others to prove these things and tell you. You will always doubt until you prove for yourself. Our work ends in simply stating our belief to the best of our ability.
It is a law that if a truth or any part of a truth is entertained in mind and not at once violently opposed, it will more and more assert itself as a truth. If it is an untruth it will die out. If it be a truth, and, as first stated, mixed with some untruth, the untruth will in time fall away from it, and only the pure gold remain.
It is also a law that every demand of human mind must in time bring its supply. Demand may extend for generations without being supplied. Age on age people longed for swifter locomotion and means of conveying intelligence. At last steam and electricity came in response to that silent demand.
Age and age have people mourned for their so‑called “dead” and wished them back. Is this demand to be the exception unfulfilled and unresponded to?
But something was needed to supplement this demand and make it more imperative. What? The knowledge, the feeling rather, by those who remain on earth by those having material bodies, that their demand and cry to be reunited with their loved ones was responded to just as eagerly by the so‑called “dead” who wanted the material bodies just as much as their friends wished they should have them.
In the near future there will be families to whom those dearest to them who have lost their bodies will return and manifest themselves in some way to the physical senses. As knowledge and faith on both sides increase, these proofs of the possibility of spiritual control of matter will become more and more plain. We say “both sides,” for knowledge, faith and effort are as necessary on the part of those who are in the unseen world to accomplish this result, as knowledge, faith and effort are necessary for us in co‑operating with them to bring about such result. There is ignorance on that side as well as this. If a mind is ignorant of these truths on losing its body, that ignorance is not immediately dispelled.
It is a great error to suppose that all wisdom, all knowledge and all happiness comes to a mind on losing its body. They may remain for long periods as ignorant as before. Ignorance is the mother of misery and pain. They can learn only of those to whom they are most attracted. They cannot get away from those to whom they are most attracted. You may be a person about whom there is ever some mind without a body, drawn to you because it finds in you more desirable company than elsewhere. As you learn these things such a mind will learn of you. It can learn of no one else. It feels in the atmosphere of your thought a warmth and rest it can feel nowhere else, and so feeling it absorbs all your thought and knowledge. The rest or company which a mind having lost its material body can feel when in the company of a mind with a body, even when the embodied is not aware of such a presence, is analogous to that certain feeling of comfort and rest you may feel in a beautiful grove, or a comfortable, cheerful house, even when no person is in it. There are tongues unseen and unheard which can convey thought and idea. There are conveyances of thought other than by means of the physical senses.
What will come in some cases from the unseen to the seen will not be public manifestations. They will be little noised or trumpeted abroad. They will not be made shows for curiosity hunters, nor used as a means of money making. That class and caliber of mind best fitted to realize these results will hold these matters as sacred as you hold anything pertaining to the inner privacy of your life to be sacred.
Nor must these results be expected in a day, a month, or a year. Those only who are able to “abide in faith” for times and seasons can realize them.
For us to state methodically, or give as a recipe, the means by which such results are to be brought about, would be as impertinent an assumption of knowledge as for the builder of the first crude railway in England, in 1826, with its stone sleepers, its thin iron slips of rails, to have assumed then to foretell all the improvements in the cars, engines, machinery and tracks of 1889.
Knowledge and power ever build on themselves, and build unexpectedly also. Who will venture to‑day to say what electricity may not accomplish within the next half century? Who will venture to‑day to say that some new force or factor may not now be lying latent and unthought of which may accomplish results far exceeding any yet realized on this planet?
If two persons, husband and wife, one being in the seen, the other in the unseen side of existence, ardently desire to communicate and be tangible to each other, they can be so, if they are really husband and wife, providing that the following beliefs can be established in the minds of both.
That minds cannot die and that the death of the body is not the death of the mind or real being.
That just as minds are in union and harmony here where both had bodies, so must they be when one loses its body.
That those having lost their bodies must not be thought of by their friends here as living in some far‑off locality, enjoying all the beatitudes and relatively indifferent to those on earth, but as in the liveliest sympathy with you in your joys, your sorrows, and all the details of your life, great and small, as they were when in possession of a body.
The longer these truths are entertained the more will they grow into your life. You need not try to convince yourself of them. They will force themselves on you, and from month to month and year to year, you will, when alone, discover yourself almost to your surprise, thinking and even acting as if the unseen were about you with physical bodies.
If such is your state of mind, it will be a great help to those near you on the unseen side. They cannot do so when you hold them in mind as “dead” and buried in graveyards.
A true husband and wife, each must always be first in the other’s mind and heart under all circumstances. If that first place is taken by any other, when one of the two has lost its body, then they are the more divided. A barrier is placed between them. Love between man and woman is, as to its intensity and perfection, a matter of growth. It is possible for such love to reach a point where husband and wife will be always bride and bridegroom to each other, and their happiness in each other constantly increase rather than diminish, and there is no relatively perfected marriage unless such feeling exist between the two.
If there is a love like this, and in his house the husband has a room devoted and consecrated to the wife who has lost her body, and excludes from it all save such as are in a live sympathy with him and her on the other side, then into that room where the seen should enter, his wife without a physical body can come and mingle her thought with his own far more readily than elsewhere. It should be regarded strictly as the wife’s room, be used for no other purpose whatever, and its furnishing and ornamentation should conform to her known and remembered tastes. So coming, at first intangible to any of his physical sense, she can also at times so mingle her thought with his own as to soothe and cheer him. So coming, as faith and belief with him as to her reality grows more and more, she, though unseen and unfelt, will still become more of a reality to him. As, on his part, the thought and conviction grows, and as the old errors regarding death, or the attitude of her mind towards him are gradually dispelled, there will be developed a power which will enable her to make for herself in that room a means of communicating with him, faint at first, but gradually increasing in strength, until she materializes a physical body also at first extremely limited in power.
But this possibility will require time, faith, patience and a love which can survive the loss of the other’s physical body.
The thought of two such minds (being from each a real element) ever flowing toward each other with the same earnest desire to realize themselves more fully to each other, will eventually become of such concentrated power that it can take a physical expression, and it being the earnest desire of both to make a body for one, such thought will go to form the body of that one.
As thoughts are things or real elements, thoughts can and do often take some form of material expression, good or bad.
Indeed, every physical expression in nature, be it of mineral, plant, bird or animal, is the material embodiment of a thought.
“Magic” implies that power now latent in human minds of concentrating thought in such volume and power as to take on in material substance the form of the object thought of.
This power and science was known to a few ages ago; but it seems to have been a masculine science, so to speak. The use and necessity of the feminine thought in conjunction with the masculine does not seem to have been recognized.
Perfect results and great results will only be realized in every phase of life when the value of the feminine thought as mingled with the masculine forms out of both a power far exceeding either singly.
A few men to‑day realize the value of the wife’s counsel and advice in all business matters. But this is the merest shadow of the value of the feminine element to man.
The more perfect the union between the man and the woman the quicker would results come to them in every department of life.
Love is not a mere “sentiment.” It is a gigantic force to carry forward enterprises and move nations.
Women hold a power to‑day they know not of. Were it possible for all women to refuse men further thought of sympathy, man’s business and man’s body would tumble to pieces, and the result would be equally disastrous to women.
This is not a possibility. But the masculine and feminine thought forces co‑operate imperfectly through ignorance on the man’s part of the use and value of the feminine thought to him, and ignorance on the woman’s part of the use and value of the thought flowing in sympathy to the man.
It leads only to misery for a mind with a body to desire to “die” in order to join some loved one on the other side. It leads only to disappointment if the mind on the “other side,” as is sometimes the case, wishes the mind here with the body to lose that body and “come over,” as it is termed. Minds in ignorance on the other side do aid this desire with minds here, and in so doing, by force of their will added to the other’s, drag them over. Many a husband, wife, or other person very near and dear to the disembodied, has been thus drawn, as it were, from their bodies. To desire continually to die is a most powerful aid to die. The result in the end to both when on the unseen side is only disappointment. They find ultimately that they are unfinished. They find less pleasure in each other’s company than they anticipated. They find they can only get as near each other as they are now in mind, taste, occupation and inclination. They feel (where they are separated by lack of mutual tastes) that separation much more painfully than they did here. They see or feel what each really thinks and feels about the other, just as clearly as if they spoke such thoughts to the other. They see each other’s minds as through glass, and the sight is most unpleasant.
One result of relatively perfected lives on this planet is to be the attainment of that spiritual power as to be able to take on or put off “earthly bodies” at will, and this can only come of a true marriage and of the power given each to the other by the true husband and wife. If either of these true partners are left with a body, wisdom on the part of the one on the “other side” will dictate his or her doing all possible to encourage the one on earth to continue to live on earth, for with increased knowledge the one left with a physical body can be of far greater help to the other than if that body perish.
All the force man uses is transmitted him through the feminine mind and element. It is only the one feminine mind which through the ages belonging to the other masculine half that can transmit him the highest force or thought, and this belongs to him, and him only, and cannot be usefully appropriated by any other man.
No individual spirit, male or female, exists without its one eternal complement (or completement) of the other sex, and the laws of demand will all the sooner bring those together who really belong to each other.
The ultimate fruition, perfection, power and happiness of life can only be realized through the union and mutual growth of the man and woman destined for each other through eternity. The death of one body does not destroy the true marriage, and in such case if any other come between parties united by the Infinite there is no true marriage.
The relative perfection of life consists in perfect health, increasing strength, increasing capacity for all enjoyment, the finding ever of new sources of enjoyment, complete power over the body, so that it can be used in the physical world so long and whenever it is desirable to use it.
This is only the beginning of life and of powers and possibilities far exceeding these and now unknown to any of us are involved in living.
It is only through the eternal union and help which the one masculine and the one feminine spirit can give each other that these possibilities can be attained, through the workings of the Laws. These two must in time find each other, and their mutual fitness must prove itself, and the unfitness of any other union will also in time prove itself.
No life can be complete in health, in fortune and other and greater possibilities without the true and only marriage.
This marriage will grow to more and more perfection in power and happiness, and its honeymoon is not only lasting, but everlasting and ever increasing.
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